How To Be More Confident

Do you often have doubts and lack confidence? Do you feel like everyone around you has all figured out and seems confident? Confidence is trusting your own ability to control your life or a specific situation. Confidence is your feelings about yourself and your abilities. Confident people believe in themselves, they are not afraid to ask for help, they are proud of themselves and usually don’t doubt themselves. Being confident is an important skill for your life as well as your career.

How can I be confident? Well, below are some steps for you to start practicing to build confidence.

1. Practice self-love

   We as humans often love other humans, or animals but can forget to love ourselves. When you start loving yourself, you will become confident no matter what life throws at you, because the confidence comes from within. Self-awareness and Self-love is the key to confidence. Be proud of your values and embrace both strengths and weaknesses. You can still work towards improving your weakness, but the point is you understand who you are and what makes you different from others. Start practicing to love and respect yourself. Be kind to yourself.

2. Stop comparing yourself to others

   Do you compare your lives to celebrities or friends on Instagram or Tiktok? Or do you compare your friend’s earnings to yours? Comparing yourself to someone around you is common for humans, but it might reduce your confidence. When you find yourself comparing to others, remember it is bad and unhealthy. Remind yourself about your success and strength. Keeping a gratitude journal might help you to recall the blessings in your life. Always remember, everyone is running their own race and has their own destination.

3. Surround yourself with positive people

   The people you spend time with can influence your thoughts and attitude. This can be your friends, family, or colleagues. Pay attention to how they make you feel. If you feel bad about yourself, after hanging out with them, it might be the time to say goodbye. Instead, spend time with people who are positive, who love you and help to build your confidence.

4. Practice positive self talk

   Our words create emotions and our emotions define our state. Our own self-talk has an effect on our confidence. Negative self-talk can push a negative attitude in your subconscious like you “can’t do” something or something is “too hard” and you “shouldn’t even try”. This limits your abilities and reduces your confidence. Whereas, positive self-talk can help foster self-compassion, be optimistic, overcome self-doubt, and take on new challenges. Replace “I can’t do this” with “I can do this” or “I can try to do this”.

5. Face your fears

   Don’t let your fear dictate what you are capable of. Stop putting things aside just because you don’t feel confident. Facing your fears can help build confidence. This might help you understand that making a few mistakes or being a little anxious isn’t that bad. The more you conquer your fear, you move forward and become more confident.

6. Take care of yourself

   Taking care of yourself will help you mentally, physically, and spiritually. Few self-care steps can help boost your confidence. You can start by eating a healthy diet. It will help to maintain your health and can make you feel good about yourself. You can also start doing some exercise every day or every few days of the week. You can also try meditating. Meditation can help you find peace, accept yourself and reduce negative self-talk. You can also try and get proper sleep regularly. Good quality sleep has been linked with optimism, positive personality traits, and self-esteem.

   Being confident is trusting yourself, your abilities, and your values. You yourself need to take the decision to take action and trust yourself. You need to make the choice. You can choose to be confident. You can choose to overcome self-doubt and fear.